freak flags and future home comings

I think I am what my mother would have called “a dreamer”, and my father frequently referred to as a “dead loss”, and what decades later would be termed a “slacker”. I was also never quite at home, though I had a capacity to be luxuriantly at home in the most squalid of chance moments. [...]

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sex, pornography and human community

Reactions to pornography are often very strong, simply to the idea of it, never mind the actual phenomenon, which tends to mask the fact that things labelled pornography or “pornographic” can be very different in nature, circumstance and function. The word “pornography” goes back to a Greek word relating to prostitution, and that term goes [...]

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What’s in a bear – what’s in a nature?

Bears are my part of the gay community, and they describe the kind of gay man I am, and they also reflect a very old sense I’ve always had of what gay maleness is for me. But that takes a little backtracking and explanation. You see, as bears have become more known, and the bear [...]

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