Yesterday was Solstice (a Summer one here), and today we lit a yellow candle to celebrate, mainly in looking forward to the heat of high Summer to come.
This time last year we were going to a fledgling revival of the old Pagan Pride March (it was actually a walk along the pavement). Now we aren’t even Pagan. I can’t tell you how glad I am of how far we’ve come.
It’s been a taxing 12 days for me, but I’ve learnt to let go and am doing ok now. I put it down to adjusting to the consequences of starting to really move – things change, friendships change, and things become apparent in your life which you weren’t so aware of before. Some of this is very happy, and some of it is distressing till you get it sorted out. But I’ve realized that whatever else I do, I have to let go, and I’m practicing letting go like the coming Full Moon is going to be the “Letting-Go Olympics”, just in case lol.
Things I’ve learnt (or been reminded of) recently:
How much people are addicted to others bowing down to their collective identifications and training. I’m group Y, you’re group X, you owe me, you can’t object.
Self-victimizing is a strategy for controlling other people by refusing to take responsibility for yourself.
And it’s pathetic.
If you want to help and support “vulnerable” people, be careful your actions are not mistaken for humility, and your “kindness” does not extend to failing to tell the harder truths. You will simply end up paying for lunch, and being expected to apologize for not sharing the same sufferings.
Some people just don’t seem to get that they have to walk the mile if they want to get a mile down the road. They aren’t the people who deserve a lift. Especially if they assume they do.
If you get caught up with any of these kinds of people, you also need to take responsibility for letting yourself get involved. Understanding how you kinda perversely did this to yourself will do you good in the long run.
Forgiveness is like flushing the toilet. It neither exonerates nor fights the crap, it just gets rid of it. But every so often, you’re inevitably going to have to do it.
Relax, and don’t waste any more time.
Here’s to the big let go.
Athirappilly water fall by Ajithaprasadmp (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)%5D, via Wikimedia Commons